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I had to re-read your message before I reply. To me, to be a consistent success is not to be afraid of appearing a failure to anyone even those who you care the most. Because if you are not afraid of appearing as “an nobody” to others, they can’t criticize you or hold you in a certain light anymore. From there, you can bounce higher than you could ever imagine before. It’s kind of like jumping the obstacle pole in an Olympic game. You must first bend your knees to position yourself before jumping higher to get over the pole. How high could you jump if you stand up straight at all times? When you turn your discomfort to joy, are you asking the better questions to ensure your joyfulness? Or are you treating discomfort as joyfulness? For example, for me, when I feel humiliated or embarrassed, I observe myself as a hardcore fighter who is not afraid of experiencing obstacles and when others humiliated me, I see myself as a joker creating happiness for others to mock. Who does not like a joker? This world needs some silliness. I laugh at my own short coming too what is not to laugh? This life is just a game and it is supposed to be fun, right? When I get rejected, I observe myself as being spared from pain and suffering of unfitting positions, unfitting relationships or unfitting circumstances. When I wonder why I am still single, I come up with the reasons that it’s NOT b/c I am not beautiful, not good enough, not young enough, not bright enough, not wealthy enough, not famous enough, it is because in order for me to have the freedom I currently have to achieve what I set out to do, in order to have one marriage that lasts forever, in order to have my children born to those parents at the right time at the right place, I willingly sign a contract before my birth that I am married at a certain age to that certain person. Because only then would I have all my criteria met. I could create my opportunities to be married at any time, but would the rest of life be the way I envision them if I jump into it now, just to win, just to show? I don’t have to convince myself and there is not a person I am obligated to. When I fail to the world standard, I observe myself being infused with confidence booster because when you do not dwell in failures, you stand up and go on, regardless how small the steps are, you gain more confidence and a brighter outlook matching forward. Those who have everything and never have experienced failures cannot take failure because the initial shock is too great for them to swallow. When you have only failure (no traffic to your sites), you understand internally that you are a success because your failure leads you to look beyond the world identity and expectation. You would never look if you are a success every time. Your site does not represent you or your success. You are a success just by being you. No one can do what you do. Although the corporate world seems to constantly peach to their employees that everyone is replaceable. This is simply not true. No one is replaceable. In fact, it looks as if replacing people is not loss to an organization but successful companies do not replace their employees easily. They treat their employees with dignity and respect which means they promote their employees and honor their working relationships by giving opportunities for them to grow within or outside the organization. Why is the U.S. failing now and all the capitalist thoughts are bringing doom to corporations because U.S.’s ruthless actions against humanity are finally catching up to them. Asia is less affected because traditions, respects and hard works instead of politics are still being valued to a certain extend. Great leader aren’t obsessed with power play to put down their subordinates, instead they treat everyone like they are future leaders themselves and this is called empowerment and it’s done on a daily basis. There is an old saying, “if you believe you can, you can” this is the first step as shifting your reality! Break it all down to the bottom line, only other humans (not your site or your money or your image etc) are your collective whole. When you tell them they are replaceable, you are telling yourself you are replaceable. When you mistreat them, you mistreat yourself, when you empower them, you empower yourself! I don’t know the real cause of hardwork =/= success but I am guessing that it’s not always about hardwork. Heavy workload/hardwork leads to restrictions which leads to mood downswing/buster which leads to imbalanced and ultimately, dissatisfaction. The corporate world is dominated by slave driving hardwork that creates and feeds on nasty collective conscious of its workers. That’s why there is no success at the worker level but just more work. Success is at the executive level where even the executives of failing companies like Ford and AIG are ensured of their annual bonus for their executives who I could assure you do much less work than the worker bees at the professional level or the labor level. They play as well as work because life is not about working too hard. Playing too hard is equivalent to working too hard. Any extremity is borderline obsessiveness so indulgence would tilt the balance scale. I am suspecting that the ones who work moderately and are balanced physically reap the most in the material world on a consistent basis. That is not to say they don’t work, they just do the best they can without abusing themselves and live every moment expecting to be treated like a leader. So perhaps tweaking “tiny nothing who deserves a lot more” to “big-shot someone just deserves a lot. Period” alter your immediate reality. I am rambling on just like you. 🙂

I think I am going to check out, “The Holographic Universe” by Talbot at Barnes and Nobles when time permits. As far as “negative” comment is concerned, I still fall into that trap from time to time, especially when the ego of my earthly self is involved. Sometimes, I compare myself to other people like why aren’t they attacking the ego of others and only uses the most defeating words to describe me. Then I realize it’s all just a mental drill there is no such thing as being better or worse. I am my only creation, the moment I decide to attack of the ego of another by challenging their faith, their belief, their view and their conception of the world, I solicit a reaction. Sometimes good but most times, it’s bringing out the fear and the dejected from that person. I, to them, an image, a familiar image stored in their memories from their past. I am not real to them and they aren’t reacting to the real me, but the projected suppressed memories of a person of their past who may share similar personality and attitudes as me. The more powerful the challenge from a more powerful person, the more powerful and advance I am to that person.  In fact, they don’t see me as weak; they see me as above as and stronger than them.  Unless the person evaluating knows the whole life of everyone else involved in the matter otherwise all comparisons are just mental drills of useless efforts as one single individual could not guarantee an absolutely un-bias evaluation of a person or a situation. We have many lives and many collective experiences and even God is not able to thoroughly trace all of us through our many lives. As we know, there are different Gods, one in each universe, parallel or horizontal to the one we are in. And it is even hard to define which is real, you could only use the one that fits in the best it can to support your creations.
However the illusions that are created by the perfect princess gets married in a splendor reception and loves by the whole world is so far out of reach for me that I should release the urge to consistently compare. I could never fit into that mode even if I want all the privileges that come with it, even trying hard to pretend like one is a terrible waste of my energy. I like to challenge men and look upon them as if they are my equal and at times, my inferior. This rubs men the wrong way and sometimes caused them to lash out at me. But I see nothing wrong with being who I really am and act out accordingly to the ways I feel comfortable. And let me say men could be particularly harsh to women who act outside their submissive role. This is not so with men and men interactions. I am still seeking to create that happy medium where men could treat me without harshness or excess lustiness. Another element at play with “negative” comments, are the people who wrote negative comments are in self destructive dark gloomy mode baiting for some reactions, often negative. They always are and they want you to react to their baits and they want to win. They could always win at the argumentative level because darker force/wavelength obviously weights heavier and is harder to pull away from, which is why people are stuck in the rat race and the majority of our culture feeds predominantly on that force. But winning in the sense of winning an argument is useless. What you want to achieve in life is the ultimate joy, success and archiving goals that you set up to do before life begins while still able to enjoy the journeys along the way. Winning the goals, winning the fight and losing sight of maintaining your joy and letting negativity entered your realm is simply not going to work. Your life is about not proving you are right and they are wrong. You are always right because your reality is true and you are the magnificent being you are by just being a being.  There is nothing to prove to the world.  There is nothing that you need to do in order to call yourself a success.  That is not to say you do nothing but you do things that honor who you are and create matters that support your truth.  Everyone is right.  So are you going to make dark gloomy thoughts right or happy joyful moods right? Each reality is readily available and have manifested many times before your existence. Those “negative” comments, let me emphasized are seeking scientific proof or just plain old proof. Your life experience is unique and you are unique, only you know how life really is. Even if you attempt to prove it to another, they won’t understand it the way you do anyway because they are never you and could never be you. Logically speaking, they bear no burden of proof by challenging you, they careless, all they want is scientific proofs or proofs that satisfy them but if they are not satisfied, there is no amount of proof coming from outside of them could fill that satisfaction.  Hence, they will never be satisfied.  I find scientific proofs simply are too “one” dimensional for anyone seeking spiritual reality. I want more than “one” dimensional; one size fits all explanation for everything because I know there is more to it than what is presented. My hunger for knowledge beyond this world is not limited. I did come upon one comments that I agree wholeheartedly which is in contradiction to the theories of phase 1 and 2 game but it is based on the same fundamentals, we are each our own universe and we each play the creation game the way we want to, however, my universe through my own creation stumble upon your universe and that’s how our first interaction begins. I am not a powerless puffin although it would seem so in your own universe. We are each a powerful creator and when our world collides, the collision is caused by your creations of a certain goals as well as mine. I come along because that certain goals created by me share similar traits as those in your universe, therefore, we become co-players of the game, once the goals/mission accomplished, we depart, maybe briefly, maybe temporarily, maybe a whole life time. No one knows the duration or time line of our interactions and it could be alter any minute per each of our deliberate creations. But all these creations are done so that we are able to each advance onto the next phase of our journey, a more marvelous creation with even more creative opportunities.  Cheers to a more lovely tomorrow. https://i2.wp.com/www.hkreporter.com/talks/images/smilies/default/vlol.gif

C2007517234851675869_Bride_Bridesmaid_Wedding_dresses_Gowns_Evening_dreI’ve decided that for the assurance of great happiness, peacefulness, tranquility and enjoyment of myself and my future husband. Only groomsmen who are men enough to be up there in integrity, spending and all around loving and generous seeking would be invited to the event. I would be a proud and confident bride walking down the aisle without any unnecessary negativity of any sort and kind in my life. Being without any negativity in any manner is utmost important than anything else, absolutely no question about this.
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babysoft, I hope your husband has friends like this… and no drunken frat buddies! …
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As those are bride’s attendants, they are men from the bride’s circle of friends who are honorable and respectable pillars of society. Perhaps some others don’t do background checks and drug and alcohol tests before letting them into the friend circle but these steps are a must for the big day as it is a perquisite for getting a simple job. I will hire those who absolutely love and emerse into obnoxious behavior and activities as escorts for the disqualified candidates as they are true match made in heaven.
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Today I am inspire to respond again. I thought of something, the idea is from my contract negotiation class. I realize that everyone ultimately desire whether they are expressed explicitly or not, her very own wedding to go perfectly, if not, close to perfectly so they have something happy to share with their grandchildren or acquaintance when such topic is brought forth for discussion. Given that you can be a bridesmaid 100 or a million times and no girl wants to be a bride a 100 or a million times except for a selective few. The significance of the event is weighted heavier on the bride side than on the bridesmaid. However, no one wants last minutes issues or mishaps, whether they be accident or caused by uncontrollable circumstances. Therefore having a contract in place where the remedy is equivalent to the damage, punitive, psychological and consequential damage resulting from such event is appropriate. You don’t have to sign it if you want it, everyone has free will and no one should be subject to anything under duress. However, the screening process prior to contract initiation between both parties would involve a background check, information filled would be verified and compared against public and privately available information and one may declare their income level in order to qualify for grants and sponsorships. The bride and family may elect to sponsor or facilitate in the sponsorship of the bridesmaid. The emphasis is both parties must show their full commitment to the event such that the declaration of “I am 100% into this and would be willing to go above and beyond of what is necessary to ensure that this is a pleasant event. Shall circumstances beyond my control arise unexpectedly, I would endeavor to act in full diligence notwithstanding the severity of the unexpected circumstance. I love and care for my friend and would want to give my all to make certain both parties have a pleasant experience.” Nothing is a guarantee in life but that ought to motivate both individuals and other participants to attempt with their personal BEST!

I’m deeply touched by the fact that the so called illusions and the truth is just one big game. We already know how our life will settle at the end. Life-1, Self-0. not in a sense that we’d lose but rather there is simply nothing you can take with you. ALL the gains or loses couldn’t be taken with you, even experiences because nothing we humans haven’t experienced in the collective consciousness. We come as thin air and left the same way. IF you’re happy or felt that you’ve regained your power. That’s enough. That’s already a life worth living! 🙂

The first of the 11 Forgotten Laws is The Law of Thinking. This law relates to your power of thought. Every single thing that you use started as a thought in the mind. We started out on this planet with nothing and now we have so many things that it’s hard to believe. All of these things from cell phones to your house were first formed in someone’s mind. This teaches you that you must start to form a clear picture in your mind of the things you want.

The Law of Supply teaches us that there is an unlimited supply. Regardless of how bad the news tells you everything is, there is plenty of everything to go around. Becoming aware of this abundance is critical to your success.

The Law of Attraction probably needs the least explanation of any of these laws with its emergence in the public eye. The idea that whatever you pay attention to is what you attract is behind this law.

The Law of Receiving deals with getting you ready to receive all of the things that you want. Regardless of how hard you try to succeed, if you’re not ready to receive it, you won’t get anywhere.

The Law of Increase deals with the ability that you have to grow. Every aspect of your life can get better. Even if you think it’s pretty good already, it can continue to increase.

The Law of Compensation goes back to the age old philosophy of “you get out what you put in”. You reap what you sow. These are all ways to say the same thing. Don’t expect to succeed if you don’t put any effort in.

The Law of Non-Resistance is one of the most overlooked laws and also the most powerful. Whatever you resist persists. This means that the things that you hate grow stronger in your life. This will teach you to simply ignore the things that you don’t like.

The Law of Forgiveness teaches you how to completely release painful things from the past. If you’re constantly rehashing everything from your past, you’ll have trouble going forward.

The Law of Sacrifice teaches you that in order to gain something you must make a choice. You aren’t necessarily losing something to get something, but you are giving of yourself to improve your circumstances.

The Law of Obedience teaches you that the laws will work with you if you obey them. If you live an undisciplined life, you probably won’t succeed.

The Law of Success combines all of the previous laws and teaches you that you can succeed. Anyone from any background can succeed. Regardless of how bad you’ve had it, there is so much good that you can still do.

These 11 Forgotten Laws will help to effectively change your life. Learn more about them and start improving your life today.

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娛圈剩女有玄機Sammi 關之琳 做硬老姑婆

【撰文】娛樂組 【攝影】攝影組 【美術】陳國威

連大笑姑婆楊千嬅都嫁得出,老公仲要係靚仔有型鮋丁子高,的確令唔少女生妒忌,鬼咩,近年香港女多男少問題愈鈬愈嚴重,鰠20至40歲適婚人口中,港女比港男多鰦成27萬人,連帶娛圈亦爆出剩女熱!

到底剩女有冇樣睇?有冇得計八字?本刊特意請來風水學家林炳南師傅同程仲蕎師傅,踢爆八大女星「剩女嫁唔出死因」,當中鄭秀文同關之琳更被評為嫁唔出頂頭大熱,等住加入老姑婆大軍。

37歲 鄭秀文敗因:沖夫官

明明貴為天后,弊在Sammi仿如中邪,先鰠04年同拍拖13年鮋許志安分手,繼而鰠05年接拍電影《長恨歌》時,因壓力爆煲全面崩潰,期間傳過佢抑鬱、厭食,甚至連死訊都有,轁到信鰦主,情況先叫做好鱓,但至今仍未能全面復出。

事業當災,愛情仲大鑊表面經已夠慘,經師傅推算後更唔樂觀,程仲蕎師傅直言:「佢本身命格沖夫官,24至33歲係佢桃花最旺鮋時間,大運一過就好難再搵到好男人,最慘係自06年後,Sammi夫官易惹第三者,就算有拖拍都一定分手收場。」睇鈬真係要望主打救。

46歲 關之琳敗因:下巴尖

之之20歲就下嫁大佢成廿年鮋富商王國旌,但結婚唔夠一年就離婚收場,雖然其後之之在影壇發光發熱,投資又有眼光,最近將南區豪宅放售就勁賺6千萬,被喻為圈中億萬富婆,可惜情路崎嶇呢!

林炳南師傅解釋:「佢下巴尖,鰠相學鈬講代表佢會孤獨終老,雖然屬木鮋佢桃花極重,弊在命冇正官星,好容易惹上有家室或者離過婚鮋男人,兜兜轉轉都係得個桔。」

難怪之之縱有多段感情,相繼同劉德華、黃家諾擦出緋聞,當中跟後者鮋高調姊弟戀,更惹來外界一致睇淡,但結果拍拖三年就玩完。

39歲 莫文蔚敗因:額頭高

07年跟馮德倫分手後,男方先後傳出同徐若瑄、舒淇有緋聞,而莫文蔚就慘咯,食足兩年白果,搞到要發表恨嫁宣言:「我都好希望另一半可以早日出現。」

雖然都係索女,但莫文蔚一向予人大女人形象,甚為趕客,更加有相得睇,「佢夫官坐殺,妻奪夫權,喜歡操控另一半,好容易發生爭拗,呢點亦可以從佢個相睇得出,額高必配白頭郎,代表佢未來老公年紀會大佢好多,咁先食得住佢。」林炳南師傅稱。

35歲 楊采妮敗因:水蛇劫

身為「過氣」玉女掌門人鮋楊采妮,98年毅然退出娛樂圈,拎畢生積蓄跟男友邱韶智到新加坡同馬來西亞搞生意,最後一鋪清袋。

林炳南師傅坦言,楊采妮有排都未嫁得出,「佢出世鮋日子叫『水蛇日』,代表佢愛情屬長跑格,冇可能會閃電結婚,而佢本身命格亦沖婚姻官,其實結婚根本唔利佢,反而同居會適合佢多鱓。」

51歲 鄭裕玲敗因:硬碰硬

同呂方拍拖16年,連汪明荃都同羅家英拉埋天窗,點知Do姐一樣難逃分手厄運,雖然期間屢傳復合消息,呂方更多次開腔想一齊,但Do姐卻甚為決絕,講明冇可能,一切全因「金」太重。

林炳南師傅經算後表示:「佢五行金太重,代表主觀性好強,而夫宮又係金,造成兩者硬碰硬,最慘佢又係下巴尖,如果55歲前搵唔到對象,就好大機會單身終老。」

39歲 張可頤敗因:沙啞聲

同樣鰠拍《長恨歌》惹禍,搞到張可頤患上「甲狀腺炎」被逼隱居長轁,雖然之前話佢搭上金融才俊曾安邦,但話咁快又傳佢懐分手,情路坎坷皆因條命所累。

「佢夫妻宮左、右雙合,一生姻緣都好容易有第三者介入,加上夫星冇靠,必定俾老公所累,而佢有沙啞聲線代表唔可以早婚,起碼要到40歲後先可以談婚論嫁,否則會為愛情賠上事業。」程仲蕎師傅稱。

44歲 陳慧嫻 敗因:水火沖

同樣情路多災多難鮋陳慧嫻,成4張№先搵到醫生男友謝國麟,拍拖5年諗住修成正果啦!點知係食白果,而自07年分手後,佢更不時出現怪行,好似鰠舊年舉行鮋演唱會,佢就鰠台上又趴地、又Fing頭,情況令人擔心。

「佢本身命格水火相沖,思想好易走向極端,出現情緒問題,兼且佢有分夫運,另一半身邊會有好多女人,直至佢62歲先叫好鱓,佢想婚姻美滿就要睇開鱓。」程仲蕎師傅表示。

35歲 郭羨妮敗因:桃花眼

又一個愛到傻鮋剩女,之前戀上溫兆倫經已被人笑天真,到07年拍《學警出更》更被指介入陶大宇同阿寶鮋婚姻,贏得「狐妮」之名,事後搞到要去加拿大洗底,星途幾乎玩完。

對於郭羨妮鮋災難愛情,程仲蕎師傅直言佢衰鰠對眼度,「佢婚姻宮帶刑,有愛情就會連累到事業,再加上佢對眼太露,法令早出,即係大家所講鮋『桃花眼』,好易搭上有婦之夫,容易被男人呃,想搵到理想歸宿,最好係嫁白頭郎。」

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林炳南師傅
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程仲蕎師傅
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關之琳
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獨具慧眼 雖然愛情冇覑落,但講到買樓之之就有一手,之前賣鰦南區獨立屋就勁賺6千萬。
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鄭秀文
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拍戲惹禍 估唔到拍套《長恨歌》,竟然令Sammi從事業高峰跌入谷底,連感情都一片空白。
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相差4年 馮德倫細過莫文蔚4年,但女方鮋相格就要配白頭郎,難怪最後要分收場。
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同性密友 男人就冇喇,反而近排莫文蔚就不時跟同性行街Shopping,不知幾開心。
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條件唔錯 莫文蔚家庭環境好,讀書又叻,咁好條件,實搵到如意郎君鮋。
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楊采妮
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媽咪催婚 話咁快就35歲,楊媽媽都好覑急,多次催婚。
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善心滿瀉 經歷感情重創後,近年楊采妮積極投入慈善工作,致力幫助有需要的人士。
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鄭裕玲
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醉心工作 回復單身後,Do姐繼續努力工作,早排就做埋「港男」主持,睇住班後輩。
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復合冇望 對於跟呂方的復合可能性,Do姐表現決絕,講到明冇可能。
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張可頤
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復出拍劇 最近張可頤終於復出,同苗僑偉合拍新劇《老公萬歲》,事業開始有起色。
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回復單身 跟曾安邦拍拖一年貨仔,期間兩人曾多次被發現四圍遊,可惜都係要分手。
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陳慧嫻
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情緒不穩 自回復單身後,多次傳出慧嫻情緒出問題的消息,連去Shopping佢都可以表演怪行。
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醫生男友 謝國麟本身係慧嫻Fans,之後兩人墮入愛河,獲外界一致睇好,可惜都係要分開。
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郭羨妮
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撻覑愛火 同大宇鮋一段情,令郭羨妮受盡外界指責,原來全因對「桃花眼」。
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拍劇翻生 多得同郭晉安拍《古靈精探B》令郭羨妮人氣再度急升,兼洗脫埋「狐妮」污名。

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Christmas_Tree1Once upon a time, there was a heavenly island where many emotions resided. There were Love, Fun, Wealthy, Happiness and many other emotions. One day, a not so good news spread to the island. It was believed that the next earthquake would sink the island for good and all residents must evacuate for their safety. Everyone was scared. Many emotions decided that their lives were more important so they invested their all into building a boat for themselves. Once the boat was built, they each left the island at once. The only one who remained is Love. Love chose to stay because it cared for the island. Love did not want the island to be lonely so it stayed with the island until its final moment. The island was sinking in the final moments and Love realized that it too must leave or else its end would be near. Love spotted the boat of Wealthy and asked it for help. Wealthy replied, “I don’t have time for you. I need to devote my time to generate Wealth. You have not had a coin on you. How are you going to pay for this ride? Please don’t block my way to more Wealth.” Love then saw Vanity. Vanity had installed jewels on its boat exterior and was smiling to a mirror. Vanity had the most attractive face and figure in the world and it worked hard to ensure that it remained that way. Vanity told Love, “My boat is clean, tidy and beautiful. Look at you, you are covered in dirt and water. I can’t have you on my boat. My luxurious space needs to be dust free. I can see you will be a mess in my space!” Vanity gave Love a smirk and left. Love then stumbled upon Sadness. “Sadness”, Love asked, “Please do take me with you?” Sadness replied, “I am so sad. I enjoy indulging in my pool of blue emotions. I can’t make room for you on my boat.” Sadness said goodbye to Love with tears in its eyes. Next came Fun. Fun was drinking, partying and enjoying itself on its boat blasting with dance music, alcoholic beverages and mingling with other Fun buddies. Love asked Fun if it could join Fun. Fun was so disoriented that it could not even tell who that was and rejected Love straight away without stating why. The island was sinking fast and just as it was about to be completely swallowed by water, a deep voice said to Love. “Come fast, I will take you to safety!” Love was taken into the boat and moments later, Love arrived to its safety. Love was so pleased it had reached its safety that it had forgotten to ask who that was or which boat it was just on. Love searched for its hero but no one was around. Love went to Wisdom for advice because it had bothered Love not knowing who that was. Wisdom closed its eyes to ponder.  After a deep contemplation, Wisdom advised, “That was Time because only Time could witness the value of real Love.” “Time comes and goes as it waits for no one.”


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